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This past weekend I had the pleasure of hanging out with two delightful teens, both of whom were far more educated about queer identities and lingo than I had been when I was their age. They effortlessly wielded words like ace and aro and non-binary, and talked about friends who’d transitioned, or had complex gender…

If you’re invested enough in bisexuals and bi issues to have subscribed to a whole hecking newsletter about biphobia, then I’m willing to bet that you are aware of the horrific — and, I should note, very obviously untrue — idea that bi men are vectors of disease, that they channel STIs (and specifically HIV)…

For years, there was one thing that I knew to be true: if things went bad for me, if people were cruel to me, it was because I was a slut. This was, very clearly, why men treated me with all the courtesy of a Kleenex, why women viewed me with suspicion. Everyone knew that…

When I talk about the forces that oppress bi people, I generally use the catch all “biphobia,” but as a bi woman, and a cis bi woman specifically, my primary frame of reference here is bimisogyny (and, again, the specific flavor of bimisogyny that is experienced by cis women). That is my starting point, that…

Earlier this week, The Nib (support The Nib!) reran a comic from 2019 about queer separatism. It’s a lovely little piece by Archie Bongiovanni, one that offers a (very brief) overview of the historical dream of an all gay city, told through the story of Fred Schoonmaker and Alfred Parkinson’s ill-fated attempt to create a gay…

Last week, Congressional Republicans introduced what is officially known as the Stop the Sexualization of Children Act — but which you’ve more likely heard referred to as an attempt at a national Don’t Say Gay law. The bill, which is closely modeled off of a Floridian law passed earlier this year, claims to “protect” children by barring…

There comes a point in every relationship where one must disclose some of their uglier tendencies for the health of the future bond, where one must acknowledge their darker thoughts and feelings in the interests of transparency. After so many weeks of writing this newsletter, I believe we have reached that point, and so —…

I was in high school when Ellen DeGeneres came out as a lesbian. To say that it was a big deal is almost an understatement. DeGeneres’s coming out was national news, a Time Magazine cover story in an era where Time Magazine actually mattered. And the cover itself was instantly iconic: DeGeneres, clad in black with white loafers, poses…

I was at a party earlier this week when someone told me that Taylor Swift is probably queer, that her latest album seems to strongly suggest it. I have no strong feelings about TSwift one way or the other, so this news meant little to me, personally (though I’m happy for all the queer Swiftes…

Years ago, when I was in my mid-twenties, I woke up one morning with a horrific pain on the right side of my back. I had never felt anything like it before; over a decade later, I struggle to remember what it felt like aside from “very bad.” But what I do remember is this: I immediately…