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If you had told me a few years ago that I was going to reach a point where I was branding myself as a Professional Bisexual™️, where I was actively pitching projects big and small about bisexuality, where I was writing daily essays about bi issues, I would not have believed you. At the time,…

So yesterday I waxed philosophic about being a lesbian; and more specifically why I don’t identify as bi lesbian despite being a woman with attractions to multiple genders who is exclusively interested in dating other women. You can read that piece if you haven’t already (that’s why I linked it!), but the takeaway is this: “lesbianism” is not…

For a little over two years, ever since I decided to stop pursuing men romantically, there’s been a question that has popped into my head every so often: am I… a lesbian now? I mean, as a woman who is only interested in dating other women, the label would seem to fit. And lots of women…

When I became Bat Mitzvah twenty-mumblemumble years ago*, I was given a certificate by my synagogue to commemorate the occasion. At the bottom, there was a line that has been burned in my brain ever since: “All the rest is commentary. Now go and study.” If you are also Jewish, you’re likely familiar with this…

Last week, in the course of writing about Alan Cumming’s consistently memory-holed bisexuality*, I posited that American society breaks bisexual men down into two broad categories: the “real” bi men, who are functionally straight men who are happy to fuck all comers**, and the “fake” bi men, who are just gay men in denial. For bi…

(Allegedly) The other week, in an act of masochism professional due diligence, I signed myself up for Google alerts for “bisexual” and “bisexuality.” The results have been… pretty depressing, I’ll be real. First my inbox was flooded with headlines about “Daemon Targaryen, Bisexual King” on account of a deleted House of the Dragon scene that briefly — briefly! —…

For several years, I shied away from calling myself bisexual. If pressed, I would cop to the B word, but more often than not I’d opt for something else: queer, sometimes. No labels, if I could get away with it. One time I used National Coming Out Day (hey that’s today!) to “come out” as…

I would like to take a moment to sing the praises of Kevin Smith. “Kevin Smith?” you may well be thinking right now. “The Clerks guy? Silent Bob?” Yes, that Kevin Smith. “The guy who just rebooted He-Man?” Yup. “The Chasing Amy guy?!” There it is. Any discussion of Kevin Smith and queerness must necessarily begin with his 1997 boy-meets-lesbian…

The other day, I was attending a meeting, and at one point, the attendees began disclosing the various labels that make up our identities (there was a reason for this exercise but it’s not worth going into what it was). From what I recall, the majority of folks mentioned that they were queer (I threw…

So why can’t we remember that? Earlier this week, I casually mentioned that Alan Cumming is bi, a fact that, I also noted, many people routinely forget. To back up my assertion, I included a link to Cumming’s own website, where he mentions his bisexuality in the FAQ. 7% of readers clicked that link, seemingly illustrating my…