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Am I asking too much?
A group I’m involved with is in search of a new leader. It is a long, slow process — as all well-considered leadership searches should be — and there are many chances (commonly referred to as “listening sessions”) for various members of the community to weigh in and express their opinions and desires about who…
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Her desire
I am not, for what it’s worth, the kind of woman who watches gay male porn. I have never been drawn to yaoi, or boys’ love, or any of the other iterations of Two Boys Kissing that many of my colleagues and peers are drawn to*. It actually took me a fair amount of time…
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Guys I saw Challengers
Challengers! If you haven’t seen it, go see it. If you have seen it — or if you don’t care about spoilers — please read on. This past Saturday I was hanging out with my mom, working on a puzzle in the shape of the United States*, when I got a text from my good…
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The privilege of an early death
In the words of my friend Joe Garden’s creation Jim Anchower, “Hola amigos. I know it’s been a long time since I rapped at ya,” but, well, life got in the way! I had to go to San Francisco for my cousin’s daughter’s baby naming, and then it was Pesach, and then my alma mater…
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I’m not weird, you’re weird.
I did not expect a chance sighting of the word “throuple” to unlock a whole revelation about my very motivation for starting this bisexual writing project, but the world works in mysterious ways. But. To begin with: I do not like the portmanteau throuple. I would even go so far as to say that I…
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The bi backlash will not be legislated
For a while now, I have been obsessed with the question of what, exactly, a bi backlash might entail. After all, a backlash seems inevitable in the wake of increased visibility: after gays and lesbians fought stigma in the 1970s and 1980s, we wound up with the Defense of Marriage Act — a preemptive strike…