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What’s in a label?
This past weekend, Keke “Sorry To This Man” Palmer got a bit personal at the Los Angeles LGBT Center. As Variety reports it: “I’m so grateful to be here today to be embraced by a community that I’ve always felt accepted by and a part of,” the “Nope” star said. “I’ve always been my own person. Sexuality and…
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Who has it worst?
If you have been in a queer space — and especially if you have been in a queer space as a bisexual — you have undoubtedly been witness to (or maybe even participated in) a conversation that attempts to rank the respective suffering of the various members of the LGBTQ community. The most basic version…
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Consider the bicurious.
A while back, I saw someone say — maybe on one of those helpful online guides to the wild world of sexual orientation — that “bicurious” is an offensive term. As a one time 1990s teen, a girl who came out in the era of “bicurious” and “heteroflexible” and the like, this struck me as…
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Bisexuality cannot be proven.
So yesterday I had my little vent about a really bizarre Mashable piece that was ostensibly about “bisexual porn” and the potential problems inherent in it that was actually about how the author feels like threesomes being a porn trope is Bad for the Bisexuals™️. At some point I do want to write the piece that actually should have been —…
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Let’s talk about porn.
Earlier this week, I fell down a rabbit hole of link clicking that led me to this piece from Mashable’s 2022 Porn Week (did you know they did such a thing? I did not) that posits the question “Is bi porn problematic?” When I opened the article, I assumed — as anyone who has had…
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The Gen Z surge.
Over the past few years, there’s been a noticeable trend: Millennials and Gen Z are queer. Very queer. In survey after survey, year after year, people my generation* and younger are IDing as LGBTQ in percentages far larger than previous generations. And to some people — like this lady, whoever she is — that trend seems… suspicious.…
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What if you run out of stuff to write about?
When I started this newsletter at the end of September 2022 — literally on a whim, literally because I was irritated that Bi Awareness Week had gone by with barely any coverage from the media — I made the bold choice to make it a daily newsletter. Not shockingly, one of the most common questions…
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It is hard enough to be happy.
I’m going to level with you all about something I’m not particularly proud of: I’m not very good at romantic relationships. This is something that I’ve been really sitting with now that I am back in therapy, because as much as I have been through the ringer over the years (and boy, have I ever),…
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The shape of oppression.
I think one of the reasons why being “bi enough” is such a concern for many bi people is because the majority of us can only conceive of bi oppression as being adjacent to the policing of same gender sexual contact and relationships. Can a bi person in a hetero appearing relationship truly consider themselves…
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What’s your internal narrative?
Humans are, as douchey writer types love to remind us all, inherently storytellers. From our earliest moments — or at least as soon as we’re able to grasp basic language and a few simple concepts — we are always telling stories, each and every day. I don’t mean this simply in the sense of a…