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Who’s the queerest of them all?
I am, as has been well established throughout this newsletter’s many installments, a bisexual woman. I am also, for those of you who don’t know what I look like, on the more feminine side of the gender presentation spectrum. I’m not the girliest girl by any stretch of the imagination, but no one would ever…
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The subtle bi reveal.
There’s an unfinished newsletter that’s been sitting in my Substack drafts folder since… I mean probably since I first started this newsletter last fall, honestly. It’s titled “I am begging you to have higher standards,” and opens by talking about a tweet I’d been sent about Andor’s subtle bisexual reveal (one so subtle that, months later,…
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If a bisexual person does it, is it automatically bisexual news?
Okay I got busy today so this one is gong to be short and sweet. So I think we’re all aware that legacy queer publications like Out and The Advocatehave basically become barely-better-than-clickbait blogs with a publication philosophy roughly along the lines of “if it’s queer, it appears!” Did an LGBTQ person let out a fart in public?…
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Bi furious.
When I first came out as bisexual, back in the prehistoric era of 1997, there was one thing I knew for sure: Now that I was out, I needed to be proud. Pride was, and remains, a central facet of the queer experience. Our parades? Pride parades. Our annual celebrations? Pride months (or at least weeks).…
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Leave it to the experts.
Now that I have been a Professional Bisexual™️ for quite some time, my friends routinely send me anything bisexuality related that happens to cross their paths. The most recent thing sent to me? This Astral Codex Ten essay that attempts to make sense of the higher rates of long COVID among bisexuals. Buckle up, kids, cause we’re going…
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Can we not?
For a long time — the vast majority of the decades I have spent as an out bi woman! — I was pretty checked out when it came to writing about bisexuality. Then, last fall, I began writing short essays about bisexuality nearly every goddamn day. The motivation for these wildly opposed states, one in…
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About that Mo’Nique special
So I’ll be honest: when I first started getting Google alerts telling me that Mo’Nique had come out as bi in a recent Netflix special, my main reaction was a “Well, good for her,” and a shrug. I did not feel compelled to watch an entire hour+ comedy special just because someone came out as bisexual…
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Against myth busting.
There’s this phrase that routinely pops up when people are attempting to, ahem, combat biphobia. It is a phrase that I have referenced multiple times over the course of writing this newsletter, almost always in a wry sarcastic manner, because quite frankly, I fucking hate this phrase. You know what it is, because I mentioned…
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Bi porn.
Many years ago — and though it shakes me down to my bones to admit this, maybe even seventeen years ago — a friend of mine asked me if I wanted to have a non-sex cameo in a porn film she was directing. As an adventurous twentysomething, my answer was obviously, “Yes, of course.” I don’t remember…
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The jealous type.
A few years ago, back when I made the commitment to start prioritizing dating women, to really give things a go, sapphismwise, I had this vision in my head of how things would unfold. I assumed that it was simply my own shyness, my own internalized homophobia and biphobia, that had held me back in…