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Is she going to write about the Mario movie?
Okay firstly: I’m not really sure how the concept of “spoilers” works when one is talking about a children’s movie based on a long running video game that follows a relatively predictable (though still fun!) plot arc, but if you prefer to go into the Mario movie (sorry, The Super Mario Bros. Movie, I should put…
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Everyone has an opinion.
One of the frustrating things about being bi is that, as soon as you make it known that you are attracted to more than one gender, everyone feels like they have the right to weigh in on the political symbolism of your attractions and why/how you are personally doing sexual attraction wrong. This is, I…
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There is no inherent valor to queerness.
One of the undercurrents of anti-bi criticisms and jokes — especially the ones that target bi women — is this idea that we’re just straight folks adopting the bi label out of a desire to make ourselves seem more cool; that bi people with straight partners, in particular, are engaging in a bit of stolen…
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Bisexual separatism?
So apparently there is a new dating swipe app, and this one is for the bisexuals. Which… well, before we talk about it, I invite you to watch this video introduction to the app. I feel like if I were that uncomfortable on camera I would not be the star of the video introduction to my app, but…
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What even is “queer”?
In their continuing mission to run the exact same bisexual personal essay, albeit with minor variations, again and again and again, Insider now has an essay from — wait for it — a white bisexual cis mom who is married to a man and has a fraught relationship with calling herself queer. This one is at…
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What is going on with this Hinge ad campaign?
For the past few months I’ve been seeing these ads for the dating app Hinge in the subway; perhaps you have also been seeing them during your own public transportation trips, or on billboards when you drive to and from wherever it is you go. I don’t know how widespread the campaign is, or how…
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Be OK
Not to be all “some personal news” but since a couple of weeks ago I announced that I was back in therapy I feel like it would be polite of me to let you all know that therapy is, well, progressing apace. I’m doing okay: my depressive episode lifted less than a week after I…
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Second verse, same as the first.
I feel, sometimes, or actually very often, like the majority of personal essays about bisexuality are basically the same essay again and again and again. For the most part, they are written by white cis women with male partners; more often than not, their fixation is on not being read as queer, and the personal…
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The birdcage is a metaphor.
As an adolescent, I was extremely into independent cinema and especially into any independent cinema about the gays (and yet for some reason still thought that I was straight? Hilarious.). So, yes, I absolutely saw The Birdcage when it came out in theaters. I also saw La Cage aux Folles, the French film that it is reprising, tho which I…
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Could you even have a good bisexual dating show?
I should admit at the top of this essay that I’m not really a reality dating show, or dating competition show, person. The closest I have come to being deeply invested in a dating show was in 2004 when I got super into the second season of The Joe Schmo Show, which was not so much a…