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This is going to sound harsher than I intend it to, but: I don’t actually care about your hurt bisexual feelings. Do you cry yourself to sleep because you don’t feel queer enough? Do you worry that everyone thinks you’re a cheating faking? Do you fret that everyone is right and you are, in fact,…

There’s a joke my mom told me years (decades) ago, back when I was a kid: A woman is waiting for a bus when she sees a bearded man in a long black coat and hat approaching. “Jews like you,” she mutters under her breath. The man stops and looks at her. “Excuse me?” he…

There was a time, not so long ago, when it was de rigeur to tell people that they were valid. I’m sure you remember doing this. Maybe you are still doing this. The idea was to confirm that people — usually trans people, though sometimes queers — were, in fact, who they said they were,…

When you are as deeply immersed in the world of bisexuality as I am (read: when you have some Google Alerts set up for “bisexual” and “bisexuality”), you get a lot of updates about people coming out. Sometimes it takes the form of a quick quip on a late night show, sometimes it’s social media post…

Years ago, I wrote a piece with a somewhat controversial premise that I still stand by: if a man has sex with both men and women, but only dates women and identifies as straight then… he’s straight. More specifically, I argued that men like this are heteroromantic bisexuals, and that while I, personally, would see them as…

I am often saying that it’s important to do more research on the bisexuals. It’s important to break bisexuals (and ideally bisexuals subcategorized by gender) out into our own demographic groups; it’s important to consider bisexuals as a unique category of people with our own unique experiences, not as an undifferentiated subset of LGB (or,…

Despite a youthful obsession with Michio Kaku’s* Hyperspace, I don’t know a ton about physics (apologies to my scientist parents, one of whom is a biophysicist (the other is a biochemist/virologist).). But I do know that there’s this thing called “quantum superposition,” where particles — even, sometimes, large particles — can exist in two places at once. (Apologies…

About a year and a half ago, when the first horrific wave of the pandemic was starting to ease up and I found myself eager to be social again, I befriended another bi femme. In theory, we were very similar: two overeducated cis white girls in Brooklyn, both bi, both Jewish. But there was one…

Here is paradox that lives in my brain: I think bisexual representation is often pointless and unhelpful, and yet I think bisexual representation is a crucial aspect of bisexual liberation.  I think a lot of things that are associated with advocating for bi people — talking about bisexual scenes and characters in books and movies,…

Some time last year, I was sent a galley copy of Akwaeke Emezi’s novel, You Made a Fool of Death With Your Beauty, which is a thing that happens when you’re a writer and people think you might be able to do book reviews (I very rarely do book reviews, it is not my beat). I…