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Bisexual women beware!
Okay so we all sorta knew that when I ambitiously started this as a daily newsletter that there were gonna be … better days and worse days … shall we say, and today, I think, is a worse day. Just been dealing with some stuff and as a result there are no brilliant essays springing…
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The visibility trap.
Here is a nuclear take: I don’t actually care if queer stories are told by queer people. I should back up for a second, though, before you all lynch me. Let’s establish some basic principles: of course I care about queer people getting to tell stories that are meaningful to them. Of course I think…
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The joy of being seen.
As you may be (or, more likely are not at all) aware, I’ve been a volunteer advocate for rape and domestic violence survivors for the past four and a half years. What this means, in practical terms, is that a couple of times a month (less now that I’m also a mentor to new advocates),…
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We’re here. We’re bi.
This morning while engaging in my daily self harm ritual known as “scrolling through Twitter,” I came across a tweet from one of the creators of A League of Their Own (the Amazon series, not the movie, don’t ask for my opinion of the show because I was… not in love with it): Worth pondering: Why are the…
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My life is not a rom com.
Here is a sad little secret: I have a habit of imagining myself as the protagonist in a film — and, when it comes to my dating life, specifically as the protagonist of a rom com. Indeed, I once even wrote a screenplay based on the early days of one of my relationships. Though in…
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Bisexuality and the threat to “the family.”
At this point, it’s kind of standard boilerplate to remind people that bisexuality and polyamory do not go hand in hand, that to be bisexual is not to be non-monogamous, anymore than being attracted to blondes and brunettes means you have to have one of each. And like on the one hand… yes. This is true! Bisexuality…
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I can accept polyamory, but I draw the line at…
For some reason — I do not know what that reason could be — Insider, the publication originally known as Business Insider, has been running a lot of personal essays about queerness. They only come across my desk when they mention bisexuality, but my Google alerts have had a swell of Insider personal essays lately. They’re usually… maybe bad…
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What even is bisexuality, anyway?
If you ask someone what bisexuality is, chances are good that you’ll get some dictionary definition about attraction to multiple genders, or attraction to one’s own gender and others, or a little lecture about bi vs pan (regardless of whether or not you asked for one). That’s not what this essay is about. I know…
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That time I got a lesbian porn mag seized at the Canadian border.
If you happen to know people in the kink or sex work worlds who like to travel, it’s very possible that you’ll have heard a story about some weirdness that went down at the Canadian border. Canada, you see, has laws about consent that are basically drawn from 1970s feminist ideals. In Canada, a person…
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The Natasha Lyonne paradox.
If you have any familiarity with queer lady cultural obsessions, you are likely aware that the actress Natasha Lyonne is, uh, one of them. And understandably! Not only was she the star of the amazing (and amazingly campy) lesbians-fall-in-love-at-conversion-camp rom com But I’m A Cheerleader, she also turned in a great performance as Nicky in Netflix’s…