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I’m so tired
Friends, I am tired. I am tired literally because yesterday was my father’s memorial service, and though it was lovely, it also took a lot out of me, especially since I’m an introvert who gets overwhelmed by large events. But I am also tired spiritually, because, well, let’s run down some of the recent offenders: YEESH.…
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What if you had a Bi Visibility Month and nobody cared?
Two years ago, it actually felt like bisexuals were making progress in the world — I mean, at least when it came to getting people to actually acknowledge the reality of our lived experiences. The New York Times was writing about “the double closet.” Multiple major publications lined up packages for Bi Awareness Week, or at least…
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Taste the rainbow
Earlier this week, the legendary Tristan Taormino (who, btw, has a memoir out!) tagged me in the comments of an Instagram post (which I’m including below just for ease), asking me what I thought of it. I am, as you may already know, a natural critic and a hater, so my immediate reaction was a bit, “Ugh.” (I…
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Research finally backs up the 1 dick rule
You know me, guys: I am very enthusiastic about getting more research done that helps shed light on what it means to live as a bisexual in a monosexist world. It’s only through research that we’ve been able to, for instance, flag that bi women really are at elevated risk of sexual assault; that across…
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What era of bisexual acceptance are we in now?
There is a Newsweek cover from 1995 that periodically makes the rounds. It’s so (in)famous that I’m willing to bet you already know what cover I’m referring to — but if you don’t, you can see it here, in a Reddit thread that weirdly misidentifies it as a Time cover. (I mean, I get it, I always misremember it as…
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Bisexuals at work
About eighteen years ago, I worked as a sex educator at an afternoon program for low income teens in New York City. It was a decent enough job (my favorite part was when my students would call me after hours to get advice or guidance) at a theoretically LGBTQ-friendly organization, and it was certainly better…
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The myth of bi availability
Earlier this week, my delightful friend John deBary (hi John if you’re reading this, I hope I got the capitalization right on your last name) sent me a link to this Verily Ritchie video about ‘00s Bisexual Chic, which… talks a lot more about emo culture than I expected. Watch the video if you want (or don’t, I’m…
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Have people considered that dating is hard
I saw a tweet a while back — maybe a few months ago? It doesn’t really matter — that was something along the lines of, “I think it’s so great that all those bi girls who say they are attracted to every woman and one man manage to find that one man to date.” (I could look…
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It’s not Cynthia Nixon’s fault
Let’s begin with a disclaimer: Cynthia Nixon never asked to be a bi activist. About twenty years ago, Nixon — who up until that point had only been attracted to men — fell in love with a nice butch lady, left her longtime partner, and eventually got married to said butch lady. And because she…
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The bi male heartthrobs have arrived*
* Some conditions may apply Okay I gotta start this essay by admitting that I have not seen Heartstopper, The Summer I Turned Pretty, or Red, White, & Royal Blue because quite frankly there is simply TOO MUCH TV and I’m too busy hate watching And Just Like That to check these shows out. Also, at least one of them is…