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A billion years ago, back when I was a tender and naive young college student, I attended a workshop led by a lesbian activist. The details of the workshop itself are unimportant; I honestly don’t remember the bulk of what she said. Indeed, the main thing that stuck with me was her insistence that “sexual…

One of the things that I realized fairly early on in my time as a Professional Bisexual™️ is that while we talk a lot about bisexual “invisibility,” there are actually quite a few bisexuals who are hypervisible — at least compared to our peers. If you are a white cis woman, and especially if you…

Well, here we are, almost to the end of Bisexual Visiwareness Week, which concludes tomorrow with Bisexual Awaribility Day. It’s been relatively underwhelming!  I mean, it was a good week for me personally: I turned 41 and people gave me gifts and I got to see Merrily We Roll Along on Broadway (Daniel Radcliffe! Jonathan Groff!). But in…

My inbox, she is swimming in bisexual headlines. Would you like 10 signs that prove you’re bisexual? Or perhaps a servicey article on what it means to be bisexual? Perhaps you’re wondering what percentage of people think bisexuality is a choice! Then this article is for you. It is not, however, for me. It feels, sometimes, like the…

Here we are in the middle of Bisexual Visiwareness Week, that special time of year when… actually I have no idea what happens this week anymore. For a brief period of time it was the one moment a year when media outlets would remember that bisexuals exist and have issues that are worth highlighting, but…

My dear friend, the comedian Mike Brown, who you may be familiar with from his time as a correspondent on Full Frontal with Samantha Bee, has a standup bit that I am 100% about to mangle. The joke — which will hopefully exist as a clip online one day, so you can watch it yourself rather than…

Yesterday, Queerty ran a piece declaring 2023 to be “the year of the bisexual man,”mostly basing that argument on the fact that Heartstopper and Red, White, and Royal Blue exist and that a handful of male celebrities have come out as bi or pan. I… am unconvinced. I mean, yes, I know we’re all doing clickbait and just saying things…

Yesterday, while doing my daily self harm ritual known as “being on social media,” I came across a screenshot of a TikTok purportedly from a bisexual complaining about the fact that there are no bi-specific slurs. The sentiment here was obvious: ugh, those bisexuals, so obsessed with being oppressed (and yet obviously not actually oppressed…

When I said yesterday that there is no such thing as an “ex-bi” — that to have bisexual attractions at one point in your life is to be bisexual, full stop — I meant it, because I strongly believe that “bisexuality” as a term reflects the entire scope of one’s life, not just who one is (or…

I should start by saying that I don’t know if “ex-bi” is actually a thing; if there are people identifying in this way in good faith or not. All I know is that bi activist Shiri Eisner posted that ex-bi sounds a lot like ex-gay, and that my immediate thought was that, well, that even beyond…