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As a general rule, I tend to err on the side of “it’s fine if you want to come up with a new label to describe your sexuality, but that doesn’t make it an identity that’s significantly different enough to be carved out from the Big Four™️* Gendered Sexual Attractions” — or perhaps Big Six™️…

It is a general rule that when people talk about “biphobia,” the first things that come to mind are often the kinds of things that used to be called “microaggressions.” You know what I’m talking about: complaints about stereotypes, complaints about gays and lesbians being mean to us, complaints about erasure — which is of…

Lately I have been seeing — I guess you’d call them “trend pieces,” though even that seems generous — about abrosexuality, which basically means “fluid sexual attraction.” An abrosexual might have exclusively homo attractions one day, bisexual ones another day, and just hetero ones another day. You get the idea. To me, personally, this all…

Recently, PinkNews brought it to my attention that some right wing troll Facebook account decided it would be hilarious to create a post saying that non-binary performer Sam Smith had recently come out as “semibisexual,” which said Facebook post helpfully described as “someone who is bisexual but is attracted to only one gender.” PinkNews takes great…

I’ve been reading this book, We Can Save Us All, that I started knowing only that it was loosely about superheroes and was surprised to find is also kind of, sort of, about the aftermath of a campus rape. I won’t get too spoilery or anything here, but I will say that I’m maybe 90%…

Last month, the research journal Archives of Sexual Behavior — a journal which, I should note, was accused of having an anti-LGBTQ bias in 2023 — published a paper with the somewhat dense title “Sex and Sexual Orientation Differences in Dark Triad Traits, Sexual Excitation/Inhibition, and Sociosexuality.” I’ve read the paper, while it was a little too…

Let me start by saying this: there are valid reasons to want to know if certain demographic groups are more likely to have a higher number of sexual partners than the rest of their peers. While anyone can get an STI — even someone who only has one sexual partner their whole life — the…

There are, of course, many stereotypes out there about bisexuals. Some are unflattering: we’re born cheaters, we’re greedy, we’re tourists who are destined to leave whomever we’re with for someone of another gender when we inevitably get bored, we’re “confused” and attention seeking and secretly straight/gay (depending on our gender, of course). Some are sinister:…

Yesterday, while at New York City’s preeminent queer beach*, I got into a conversation with my friends and beach companions about people who come out “late” — which in this case meant in their thirties or forties. My friends (two gay men) and I were, shall we say, early bloomers. One had realized he was…

Insider — my favorite source for terrible bisexual essays — has a new take on the bi experience (that was syndicated to MSN but is still an Insider essay, the media ecosystem is weird). Theoretically I should love it — the conclusion is that bi women are great! — and yet I find myself feeling… ick… while reading…