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Years ago — because, much as it pains me to admit this, the first season of Severance was years ago — I received a lecture from a colleague about the true meaning of the word “queerbaiting.” [Slight Severance spoilers ahead, sorry not sorry, you should have watched it by now!] The context here is that I was…

Celibacy is, as you may have heard, all the rage now. Call it “boysober,” call it “decentering men,” call it the focus of countless trend pieces. All I know is: it’s in. It is an interesting phenomenon for me, personally, to observe because — well, I guess you could say that I’m a trendsetter. Back…

First things first: my friend died a week and a half ago. If it is strange to learn that I considered the director of Super Size Me to be a friend, well, it is stranger still to publicly say that he was. I don’t really like to put my business on main, but I will say…

Obsessive bisexuals — and obsessive Lil Nas X fans — may recall that back in January 2023, the artist also known as Montero posted a tweet suggesting that he might be, ahem, “a little bisexual,” leaving it to the masses to wonder what, exactly, “a little bisexual” might mean. Well, wonder no more, because he’s…

A group I’m involved with is in search of a new leader. It is a long, slow process — as all well-considered leadership searches should be — and there are many chances (commonly referred to as “listening sessions”) for various members of the community to weigh in and express their opinions and desires about who…

I am not, for what it’s worth, the kind of woman who watches gay male porn. I have never been drawn to yaoi, or boys’ love, or any of the other iterations of Two Boys Kissing that many of my colleagues and peers are drawn to*. It actually took me a fair amount of time…

Challengers! If you haven’t seen it, go see it. If you have seen it — or if you don’t care about spoilers — please read on. This past Saturday I was hanging out with my mom, working on a puzzle in the shape of the United States*, when I got a text from my good…

In the words of my friend Joe Garden’s creation Jim Anchower, “Hola amigos. I know it’s been a long time since I rapped at ya,” but, well, life got in the way! I had to go to San Francisco for my cousin’s daughter’s baby naming, and then it was Pesach, and then my alma mater…

I did not expect a chance sighting of the word “throuple” to unlock a whole revelation about my very motivation for starting this bisexual writing project, but the world works in mysterious ways. But. To begin with: I do not like the portmanteau throuple. I would even go so far as to say that I…

For a while now, I have been obsessed with the question of what, exactly, a bi backlash might entail. After all, a backlash seems inevitable in the wake of increased visibility: after gays and lesbians fought stigma in the 1970s and 1980s, we wound up with the Defense of Marriage Act — a preemptive strike…