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Things that trigger my internalized biphobia
Internalized biphobia. We all have it, even the best of us; at most, we have had it and done a lot of hard work to process and work through it. I, myself, still struggle with it — though in a sign of growth I am least aware of what it is when it crops up. Back in the before…
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What do we owe to each other?
I often feel like other people’s sexual and gender identity labels are a bit like their dreams: I want them to feel good about them, I want them to feel fulfilled by them, but I also don’t need to hear about them in great detail. There are only so many deeply involved descriptions of the…
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The kids are alright
This past weekend I had the pleasure of hanging out with two delightful teens, both of whom were far more educated about queer identities and lingo than I had been when I was their age. They effortlessly wielded words like ace and aro and non-binary, and talked about friends who’d transitioned, or had complex gender…
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Pure filth
If you’re invested enough in bisexuals and bi issues to have subscribed to a whole hecking newsletter about biphobia, then I’m willing to bet that you are aware of the horrific — and, I should note, very obviously untrue — idea that bi men are vectors of disease, that they channel STIs (and specifically HIV)…
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A born slut
For years, there was one thing that I knew to be true: if things went bad for me, if people were cruel to me, it was because I was a slut. This was, very clearly, why men treated me with all the courtesy of a Kleenex, why women viewed me with suspicion. Everyone knew that…
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Bimisogyny vs Bimisandry
When I talk about the forces that oppress bi people, I generally use the catch all “biphobia,” but as a bi woman, and a cis bi woman specifically, my primary frame of reference here is bimisogyny (and, again, the specific flavor of bimisogyny that is experienced by cis women). That is my starting point, that…
The B+ Squad
A website for the modern bisexual.
A website for the modern bisexual.
In the fall of 2023, I noticed something strange. After a flurry of interest of interest in bisexuality — packages devoted to Bisexual Awareness Week, article after article about how biphobia was real and the bisexuals were, in fact, struggling — Bisexual Awareness Week had once again descended upon us and there was… nothing. No dedicated weeks on any of my favorite sites. No essays rehashing old and new bisexual gripes. Even the pitches I sent in about bisexuality generated little to no interest from editors.
It seemed that the media world was just… done with bisexuals.
And as a frustrated bisexual with a lot of things to say, I decided to do what every writer was doing: I started a newsletter about bisexuality. Welcome to The B+ Squad.
All essays I’ve written on bisexuality — including ones from the project’s Substack era — are on this site. If you’d like to support the project (and get bonuses for yourself, including early access to essays), you can check out my Patreon.
Lux Alptraum
Writer & Journalist