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Stop assuming that people are straight.
It is one of the great paradoxes in my life that I truly, deeply do not care about the private lives of celebrities and yet find myself constantly talking about them* because this is, regrettably, the nexus through which so many pop conversations about sex and queerness are understood. For better and for worse (usually…
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We have the numbers.
So mid-last week, Gallup released the results of its 2022 LGBT identification poll. This is something Gallup does annually, and the 2022 results were not particularly striking — indeed, by Gallup’s own admission, they were functionally identical to the results from 2021 (which themselves had been striking insomuch as they saw a 2% jump in the number of Americans identifying…
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What are you looking for?
I should probably begin this essay with a little bit of context about my own backstory: By the time I arrived in New York City, just three weeks shy of my seventeenth birthday, I was on my sixth city, third state, and second country. The longest I had lived anywhere was eight and a half…
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The end of “coming out.”
1997 was a pretty big year for queer comings out. Most importantly, I came out as bi that year. But it was also the year a comedian and sitcom star named Ellen DeGeneres came out as a lesbian, which I guess was pretty significant too. All kidding aside: if you don’t remember 1997, it may…
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On intracommunity violence.
First, the last thing I plan to say about threesomes for the foreseeable future: The problem with any Discourse™️ around bi women and MFF threesomes is that whatever way you slice it, you have a bi woman being victimized by another bi woman. If you take the side of the beleaguered and harassed potential thirds,…
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Consider the threesome.
As a general rule, the threesome is a fundamentally queer sex act. Certainly, there are exceptions: the most heterosexual threesome is probably the “not gay” MMF where two men simultaneously fuck the same woman while studiously avoiding all intimate contact with one another — the kind of MMF threesome you see in a lot of porn created…
The B+ Squad
A website for the modern bisexual.
A website for the modern bisexual.
In the fall of 2023, I noticed something strange. After a flurry of interest of interest in bisexuality — packages devoted to Bisexual Awareness Week, article after article about how biphobia was real and the bisexuals were, in fact, struggling — Bisexual Awareness Week had once again descended upon us and there was… nothing. No dedicated weeks on any of my favorite sites. No essays rehashing old and new bisexual gripes. Even the pitches I sent in about bisexuality generated little to no interest from editors.
It seemed that the media world was just… done with bisexuals.
And as a frustrated bisexual with a lot of things to say, I decided to do what every writer was doing: I started a newsletter about bisexuality. Welcome to The B+ Squad.
All essays I’ve written on bisexuality — including ones from the project’s Substack era — are on this site. If you’d like to support the project (and get bonuses for yourself, including early access to essays), you can check out my Patreon.
Lux Alptraum
Writer & Journalist