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Confessions of a bad bisexual
If you spend enough time in queer spaces (and sometimes not just queer ones), you become aware of an archetype I like to think of as “the bad bisexual.” She — because the bad bisexual is always a woman — is cisgender. She is feminine, though not in the exaggerated way of the high femme…
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The cycle continues
This week, New York Magazine unveiled a new package on polyamory (which, as far as I can tell, is pegged to a memoir about a woman in an open marriage that just dropped this week). And, you know, fine. Good! The piece has some good info in it. If it inspires someone to make choices…
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You are unknowable
There is, I think, a fear that exists in many monosexual-bisexual relationships. Or if not a fear, then the acknowledgment of a block, an impenetrable wall that exists between the two parties. To be bisexual is, on a fundamental level, to have a part of yourself that is fundamentally unknowable to a monosexual — even…
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Is it bisexual to be a slut?
At the tail end of 2011, I was freshly out of a multiyear relationship and weirdly obsessed with Comic Life, a piece of Mac software that may or may not exist anymore that made it easy to create photo comics. The way Comic Life worked was this: you’d choose a page layout, and drop photos…
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There are many heterosexual explanations for this.
Okay. Let’s talk about this New York Times Taylor Swift queerness piece. I feel like I should start by admitting that I zoned out maybe 75% of the way through the piece (it is so long) and thus cannot claim to have given it a close read or anything, but I also feel like I read enough to get…
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Keep my name out of your mouth.
I wrote last week about this University of Michigan study about, ugh, bisexuality and risk taking that just gave me a bad feeling; somewhat predictably, that study has gotten traction in the press and taken over my Google Alerts for bi stuff (it’s all either that or reactions to that weird New York Times about Taylor Swift and queerness that…
The B+ Squad
A website for the modern bisexual.
A website for the modern bisexual.
In the fall of 2023, I noticed something strange. After a flurry of interest of interest in bisexuality — packages devoted to Bisexual Awareness Week, article after article about how biphobia was real and the bisexuals were, in fact, struggling — Bisexual Awareness Week had once again descended upon us and there was… nothing. No dedicated weeks on any of my favorite sites. No essays rehashing old and new bisexual gripes. Even the pitches I sent in about bisexuality generated little to no interest from editors.
It seemed that the media world was just… done with bisexuals.
And as a frustrated bisexual with a lot of things to say, I decided to do what every writer was doing: I started a newsletter about bisexuality. Welcome to The B+ Squad.
All essays I’ve written on bisexuality — including ones from the project’s Substack era — are on this site. If you’d like to support the project (and get bonuses for yourself, including early access to essays), you can check out my Patreon.
Lux Alptraum
Writer & Journalist