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Bisexuals by any other name
For several years, I shied away from calling myself bisexual. If pressed, I would cop to the B word, but more often than not I’d opt for something else: queer, sometimes. No labels, if I could get away with it. One time I used National Coming Out Day (hey that’s today!) to “come out” as
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A tribute to Kevin Smith
I would like to take a moment to sing the praises of Kevin Smith. “Kevin Smith?” you may well be thinking right now. “The Clerks guy? Silent Bob?” Yes, that Kevin Smith. “The guy who just rebooted He-Man?” Yup. “The Chasing Amy guy?!” There it is. Any discussion of Kevin Smith and queerness must necessarily begin with his 1997 boy-meets-lesbian
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On flexibility. The hetero kind.
The other day, I was attending a meeting, and at one point, the attendees began disclosing the various labels that make up our identities (there was a reason for this exercise but it’s not worth going into what it was). From what I recall, the majority of folks mentioned that they were queer (I threw
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Alan Cumming is bi
So why can’t we remember that? Earlier this week, I casually mentioned that Alan Cumming is bi, a fact that, I also noted, many people routinely forget. To back up my assertion, I included a link to Cumming’s own website, where he mentions his bisexuality in the FAQ. 7% of readers clicked that link, seemingly illustrating my
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Learn your history.
I don’t quite remember when I first started making a concerted effort to unlearn my bi shame, to quiet the voice that told me that identifying as bisexual was embarrassing, uncool, nowhere near as revolutionary as identifying as queer. Certainly the process must have started by the summer of 2019, when I tweeted what was,
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I have this thing about Katie Hill
So to begin with, I should start by admitting that I didn’t really care very much about Katie Hill when she was first elected. It was fall 2018, which means I was still deeply mired in my own internalized biphobia. But that was only part of it. There was also the fact that Hill —
The B+ Squad
A website for the modern bisexual.
A website for the modern bisexual.
In the fall of 2023, I noticed something strange. After a flurry of interest of interest in bisexuality — packages devoted to Bisexual Awareness Week, article after article about how biphobia was real and the bisexuals were, in fact, struggling — Bisexual Awareness Week had once again descended upon us and there was… nothing. No dedicated weeks on any of my favorite sites. No essays rehashing old and new bisexual gripes. Even the pitches I sent in about bisexuality generated little to no interest from editors.
It seemed that the media world was just… done with bisexuals.
And as a frustrated bisexual with a lot of things to say, I decided to do what every writer was doing: I started a newsletter about bisexuality. Welcome to The B+ Squad.
All essays I’ve written on bisexuality — including ones from the project’s Substack era — are on this site. If you’d like to support the project (and get bonuses for yourself, including early access to essays), you can check out my Patreon.
Lux Alptraum
Writer & Journalist