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Better out than in
Is there any queer experience more universal than coming out? It is foundational, right, the thing that allows one to identify as openly queer. And yet I have to admit I just find it kind of weird as a concept. I mean for starters: what exactly do we mean when we talk about “coming out” in…
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If a bisexual isn’t getting laid…
A few months ago, I wrote in this newsletter about the idea of the “the formerly bi” — a common category prominently represented by people like Ani DiFranco and Billie Joe Armstrong; publicly bisexual celebrities who’ve grown more shy about owning the bi label as they’ve spent years in monogamous heterosexual relationships. You don’t have…
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On “icons.”
I have this joke about queer icons: the easiest way to become one is by being a straight woman who thinks gays are kind of neat! I kid, I kid. I mean, not really, though. How many Pride parades have been grand marshaled by straight women, you know? Quite a few! It sometimes feels like…
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What’s in a name?
It is a little depressing that — outside of people just saying straight up biphobic shit — one of the most common discussions about bisexuality seems to be an obsession over why people call themselves “bisexual,” why that word, rather than, say, pansexual or queer happens to appeal to certain folks. For instance: A few…
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Much ado about macaques
For for the past few days, my “bisexual” and “bisexuality” Google alerts have been overtaken, not with the usual stories of this celebrity coming out or … well usually they’re all just about celebrity comings out, let’s be honest — but instead with stories about macaques. Why macaques? Well, because of a recently published paper in Nature…
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It’s not bi vs trans.
Years ago, when I was planning on writing a book about biphobia, I took some time to interview some elder bisexual activists — many of them leaders of the bi rights movement that began cropping up in the United States in the early 1980s. I learned a lot from those conversations — and they definitely…
The B+ Squad
A website for the modern bisexual.
A website for the modern bisexual.
In the fall of 2023, I noticed something strange. After a flurry of interest of interest in bisexuality — packages devoted to Bisexual Awareness Week, article after article about how biphobia was real and the bisexuals were, in fact, struggling — Bisexual Awareness Week had once again descended upon us and there was… nothing. No dedicated weeks on any of my favorite sites. No essays rehashing old and new bisexual gripes. Even the pitches I sent in about bisexuality generated little to no interest from editors.
It seemed that the media world was just… done with bisexuals.
And as a frustrated bisexual with a lot of things to say, I decided to do what every writer was doing: I started a newsletter about bisexuality. Welcome to The B+ Squad.
All essays I’ve written on bisexuality — including ones from the project’s Substack era — are on this site. If you’d like to support the project (and get bonuses for yourself, including early access to essays), you can check out my Patreon.
Lux Alptraum
Writer & Journalist