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A few months ago, while I was hanging out with my brother’s teenage kids, one of them asked me if I thought the 1980s were the best era. (This is, or at least was, apparently a conviction that was popular with their peer group.) “Absolutely not,” I replied, because, lol. The 1980s. Are you fucking…

Although I am a person who used to regularly perform in comedy shows and has professional comedian friends, I am not regularly given to watching standup specials (I’m more into watching stuff with a plot). So I did not watch Hannah Gadsby’s Something Special when it dropped this past spring, and only really learned of its contents…

Hello from The Hamptons! It is weird to write that — I don’t want to give you the impression that I am a “Hamptons person,” with all the baggage that that label entails. The truth is this is only my third time in The Hamptons ever; the first being a Valentine’s Day drive to Montauk…

There is this term that you may be familiar with: “bi wife energy.” Ostensibly, it refers to straight men with bi female partners, men who are just so cool and queer savvy on account of their relationship. I think the implication is that bi women are too choosy to settle for some regular old loser…

So this is strange to admit: Over the past month and change, I have experienced more antisemitism than I ever have in my life. I don’t mean that in the sense that people might think. No one has physically assaulted me for being Jewish. I haven’t been called any slurs — not to my face,…

Last night, while texting with a friend, I made a casual reference to the sea of watermelon emojis that had overtaken my social media feed. My friend had no idea what I was talking about. It was almost inconceivable to me that this Free Palestine symbol that had become a standard feature of my online…

Last night I had the pleasure of attending an event featuring speakers from Standing Together/Omdim Beyachad, the largest grassroots Jewish-Arab solidarity network in Israel-Palestine. I won’t derail this newsletter with a full explanation of the scope of their work (though you can learn more about them here), but I bring them up because of something that…

Here’s some rare good news: I went to the doctor for my annual physical on Monday and I’m in good health. All my vitals good, all my labs good, despite the chaos and insanity of everything I’m actually… physically doing fine. Here’s some bad news: that puts me in the minority of bisexuals. Yes friends, another…

One of the criticisms that is often lodged at bisexuals is the idea that we are “straight passing” — that we can, and often do, live the lives of straight people, regardless of our queerness. This is, of course, the basis of the obsession of bi girls with boyfriends; the idea that bisexuals are impostors…

This newsletter leads me some surprising places, friends. For instance: I did not expect to wind up reading a blog post written by and for people in the advertising industry, encouraging their peers to consider integrating bisexual visibility into their ads, the same way that other queer identities have been worked into ad campaigns in…