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The “good” bisexual.
For the past few days — ever since Lil Nas X tweeted about possibly being “a little bisexual,” to a largely positive response — I’ve been thinking about the “good” bisexual coming outs, the ones that seem to only spark joy and no disdain. Lil Nas X got one, as did Tessa Thompson, and of…
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The hate is coming from inside the house.
Years ago, when I still had some hope that posting ads on Lex was going to help me find a girlfriend (I was so young and innocent back then), I posted an ad noting that I was a bi woman seeking another bi woman for good times and potentially more (though my ad was wittier and more…
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It’s okay to change.
If you’ve been reading my writing on bisexuality for a while now, you’re undoubtedly aware that the current leg of my bisexual journey kicked off at the end of June 2020, when I found myself crying in my kitchen, overwhelmed by the revelation that maybe I actually liked women more than I had ever let…
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Lil Nas X and the limits of the public bisexual reveal.
I am, it must be admitted, what the kids refer to as “terminally online,” and while I often think that’s bad for me it does, sometimes, mean that I stumble upon important tweets like this one — in which Lil Nas X floats the idea that he might be “a little bisexual” — shortly after…
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The broken clock.
Over the weekend, Jordan Peterson — he of “clean your room” and lobster men fame — shared a tweet that I have to imagine he thought was a gonna be a real hard truth for queers to take. In my head, I can see Peterson smugly sitting back in his chair after pressing the tweet button…
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Bi rights are for everybody.
When I first started writing this newsletter, there were a number of questions I anticipated getting, like, “Why are you doing this?” “A whole newsletter just about how you’re not a cheater and you don’t want threesomes?” and, of course, “Bisexual? Why not pansexual?” What I did not expect, however, was how many non-bisexuals would ask me…
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My grand defense of Chasing Amy.
1997 was a big year for bi history: I came out, and so did the movie Chasing Amy. Though I’d never seen a Kevin Smith film — I didn’t know anything about him, or Jay and Silent Bob, or any of it — I knew from the moment I read about Chasing Amy that I absolutely had to…
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What if everything you know about bisexual relationships is wrong?
The other day I had a stray thought about married bisexuals. Specifically, I started to wonder if bisexuals actually are more likely to get married than the rest of our queer peers — you know, now that marriage equality is the law of the land and all. Is this idea of the privileged, married bisexual a holdover…
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Think bigger.
As I have mentioned several times before, I’m a routine lurker (and very infrequent poster) on Lex, a queer text-based dating app that I have a love/hate (but mostly hate) relationship with. I could talk a lot about Lex (and often do!), but that’s not really the point of this newsletter. The reason I bring Lex up is…
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The Bisexual Pick Me
A few years ago, when I was still struggling with some bisexual shame, I did a little thread about some of those kinds of bisexuals. The embarrassing ones, the ones who are basically straight but constantly trying to get attention for themselves. You know who I mean. The kind of bisexuals that so many of us desperately…