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Much ado about macaques
For for the past few days, my “bisexual” and “bisexuality” Google alerts have been overtaken, not with the usual stories of this celebrity coming out or … well usually they’re all just about celebrity comings out, let’s be honest — but instead with stories about macaques. Why macaques? Well, because of a recently published paper in Nature…
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It’s not bi vs trans.
Years ago, when I was planning on writing a book about biphobia, I took some time to interview some elder bisexual activists — many of them leaders of the bi rights movement that began cropping up in the United States in the early 1980s. I learned a lot from those conversations — and they definitely…
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The revolution will not be individual.
Though I have not been paying much attention to online discourses and discussions as of late, I did happen to notice that yesterday asexuality and aphobia seemed to be taking center stage in a relatively predictable way — some allosexuals were demanding to know how aces are oppressed, and some aces were detailing the ways…
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Not even First Ladies can escape biphobia.
For 8 years — from 2014 to 2022 — Bill de Blasio was the mayor of New York City. And for those 8 years, his wife and the First Lady of New York City was Chirlane McCray. The two of them made a striking pair: she’s Black, he’s white. She’s short, he’s freakishly tall. She…
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On mean comments.
I spent the majority of Pride Month checked out from any online discourse due to, you know, my dad dying, so I wouldn’t say that I was particularly on top of the various biphobic microaggressions that bubbled up on the various social media sites people hang out on these days. But I did see some…
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In spite of it all, we are still here.
This morning I logged on to my computer and opened up a video chat session with my therapist — the therapist who successfully diagnosed and treated my OCD a little over five years ago, the therapist I went back to back in March when I felt isolated and incapable of seeking emotional support from anyone…
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It’s been three years.
Three years ago — about three months into a world disrupting pandemic, and right at the end of a month of an entirely virtual celebration of Pride — I found myself crying in my kitchen. I’d been mentally drafting a Twitter thread, I think something about feeling rejected and ostracized in queer spaces, when I…
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We all stood together at Stonewall.
This morning, while idly scrolling through my Bluesky feed (yes I am one of the privileged few to have made it into the Bluesky beta), I accidentally clinked on a link to a Kevin M. Kruse essay commemorating the anniversary of the Stonewall Riots. The bulk of Kruse’s piece is not actually about Stonewall — it’s…
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Majority rule.
Over the weekend (Pride weekend), The New York Times Opinion section ran an essay titled “As A Gay Man, I’ll Never Be Normal,” which, interestingly enough, was written by a one time colleague of mine (not that that has any bearing on anything that follows). The essay was, shall we say, controversial amongst some of the queers, which I suppose is…
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Erasure in action.
A few months ago, I made decision to start going to Shabbat services at my synagogue more regularly. I can’t recall what sparked that desire — maybe it was that I was feeling lonely and Shabbat services felt like a way to connect more deeply with community? — but in the wake of losing my…