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I am not going to defend my moral worth.
There’s this thing that often happens whenever someone is doing a biphobia, a kind of championing of bi respectability, bi worth. A bi person will get up and start explaining why the biphobe is wrong, making a case for the fundamental goodness of bisexuality, of bi people. Bi people, they might say, aren’t half gay…
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Women don’t talk more.
There’s this weird phenomenon — you may be aware of it — where men routinely overestimate how much women are talking. Multiple studies have documented this effect: when a conversation is split 50/50 on gender lines, the perception is often that women are dominating the conversation. Indeed it is only when women are speaking far less than men…
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The bisexuality of it all.
Over the weekend, while I was spending too much time on Twitter (what do you want, it was like 9 degrees Fahrenheit outside!), I stumbled on to a bit of back and forth between bi educators and activists about bi women’s elevated risk of intimate partner violence (IPV). One educator — responding to, ugh, some…
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The only provable sexual orientation.
This morning I was reading a really terrible LA Magazine profile of Bari Weiss, which I’m not going to link because… it’s terrible and you don’t need to read another apologia for Bari Weiss. Anyway, it was making me absolutely miserable, but I kept soldiering on out of sheer masochism, right up until I got to the…
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What we talk about when we talk about bi healthcare.
A few years ago, if you’d asked me to talk about bi healthcare needs, I probably would have stared at you blankly. With some prodding, I might have acknowledged that bi men are at an elevated risk for HIV and should be offered access to the same education and mitigation strategies that all men who…
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But what if you are?
When I first came out as bisexual as a baby-faced teen in the long long ago era of 1997, one of the things I knew at my core was that, now that I was out I had to be proud. It was just a part and parcel of the whole deal, you know? I made my way down…
The B+ Squad
A website for the modern bisexual.
A website for the modern bisexual.
In the fall of 2023, I noticed something strange. After a flurry of interest of interest in bisexuality — packages devoted to Bisexual Awareness Week, article after article about how biphobia was real and the bisexuals were, in fact, struggling — Bisexual Awareness Week had once again descended upon us and there was… nothing. No dedicated weeks on any of my favorite sites. No essays rehashing old and new bisexual gripes. Even the pitches I sent in about bisexuality generated little to no interest from editors.
It seemed that the media world was just… done with bisexuals.
And as a frustrated bisexual with a lot of things to say, I decided to do what every writer was doing: I started a newsletter about bisexuality. Welcome to The B+ Squad.
All essays I’ve written on bisexuality — including ones from the project’s Substack era — are on this site. If you’d like to support the project (and get bonuses for yourself, including early access to essays), you can check out my Patreon.
Lux Alptraum
Writer & Journalist