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The year of the bisexual man
Yesterday, Queerty ran a piece declaring 2023 to be “the year of the bisexual man,”mostly basing that argument on the fact that Heartstopper and Red, White, and Royal Blue exist and that a handful of male celebrities have come out as bi or pan. I… am unconvinced. I mean, yes, I know we’re all doing clickbait and just saying things…
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On slurs
Yesterday, while doing my daily self harm ritual known as “being on social media,” I came across a screenshot of a TikTok purportedly from a bisexual complaining about the fact that there are no bi-specific slurs. The sentiment here was obvious: ugh, those bisexuals, so obsessed with being oppressed (and yet obviously not actually oppressed…
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Please let me explain some contradictions
When I said yesterday that there is no such thing as an “ex-bi” — that to have bisexual attractions at one point in your life is to be bisexual, full stop — I meant it, because I strongly believe that “bisexuality” as a term reflects the entire scope of one’s life, not just who one is (or…
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There is no “ex-bi,” only once and future bi
I should start by saying that I don’t know if “ex-bi” is actually a thing; if there are people identifying in this way in good faith or not. All I know is that bi activist Shiri Eisner posted that ex-bi sounds a lot like ex-gay, and that my immediate thought was that, well, that even beyond…
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I’m so tired
Friends, I am tired. I am tired literally because yesterday was my father’s memorial service, and though it was lovely, it also took a lot out of me, especially since I’m an introvert who gets overwhelmed by large events. But I am also tired spiritually, because, well, let’s run down some of the recent offenders: YEESH….
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What if you had a Bi Visibility Month and nobody cared?
Two years ago, it actually felt like bisexuals were making progress in the world — I mean, at least when it came to getting people to actually acknowledge the reality of our lived experiences. The New York Times was writing about “the double closet.” Multiple major publications lined up packages for Bi Awareness Week, or at least…
The B+ Squad
A website for the modern bisexual.
A website for the modern bisexual.
In the fall of 2023, I noticed something strange. After a flurry of interest of interest in bisexuality — packages devoted to Bisexual Awareness Week, article after article about how biphobia was real and the bisexuals were, in fact, struggling — Bisexual Awareness Week had once again descended upon us and there was… nothing. No dedicated weeks on any of my favorite sites. No essays rehashing old and new bisexual gripes. Even the pitches I sent in about bisexuality generated little to no interest from editors.
It seemed that the media world was just… done with bisexuals.
And as a frustrated bisexual with a lot of things to say, I decided to do what every writer was doing: I started a newsletter about bisexuality. Welcome to The B+ Squad.
All essays I’ve written on bisexuality — including ones from the project’s Substack era — are on this site. If you’d like to support the project (and get bonuses for yourself, including early access to essays), you can check out my Patreon.
Lux Alptraum
Writer & Journalist